My definition of “Deepthroating” is taking a dick past the soft palate in your mouth and sliding it down into your throat.
My First (Real) Deepthroat
The first time I heard about deepthroating was from a girlfriend of mine in high school. Not only did I hear about it, but they shared a video of her performing the act. I can remember thinking that her boyfriend’s penis was small, but they both seemed happy. And I admit, to my young eyes her technique was amazing. She could take his penis and put it all in her mouth, and then lick his balls (see article: “Oral Techniques“). Although she bragged about her deepthroat prowess, in my mind I called it “deep mouthing.” By the looks of it, I doubt his penis was even hitting the back of her mouth. When I met my husband, Ryan, I guess I was a bit cocky. Maybe I was competitive with my girlfriends but that old video stuck in my mind and I knew I could do it better than my friend. I was going to take all of him easy, I didn’t care he was 6’4 and I was just a little Filipino girl. And then I realized, all men aren’t built the same. I tried to take Ryan’s longer, fatter dick deep in my throat, and almost gagged immediately. His head hit my soft palate and my lips were only at the edge of his circumcision scar, which was not even a third of the way down. Ryan would grind his hips into my mouth, but his dick would just bend and I would eventually gag and switch to only sucking and kissing on the tip of his penis. Although at the time I didn’t realize I wasn’t deepthroating him (it felt deep), I just figured I was deepthroating as much as I could. If Ryan asked me to deepthroat, I would stick his dick back as far as I could in my mouth and press it hard against the back of my tongue and soft palate. The pressure from my tongue (coupled with my panic of choking/gagging) kept my throat closed and his dick from going down any further. I wasn’t doing it on purpose; it was an instinct to keep me from feeling like I was going to choke. After I’d press for a few seconds, I would gag and Ryan would give me positive reinforcement by saying, “Good girl.” I was naïve to believe that deepthroating just meant putting as much of the dick in your mouth as possible, but my husband was happy I was at least trying and I just felt his penis was too big.
What is a true deepthroat?
You have the hard palate and the soft palate. It takes a little bit of coaxing to get your man’s dick past the soft palate because you’re not used to having something so big and wide in your throat. You have to remind yourself that you will not choke on it; you can lift up or pull away if you “feel” you are in danger. Additionally, if the dick is really in your throat you will NOT be able to breathe. If you can breathe, you’re doing it wrong. A true deepthroat will cover your entire throat and prevent air from going in or out. I was intimidated at first because my husband’s dick circumference is nearly 6” around and during the first few days of learning, it was like a bee stung me in my neck and my throat was closing up.
When my husband asked if I was willing to learn how to really deepthroat, I was down for the challenge. And yes, there was a lot of watery eyes, coughing, and gagging at first, but only because I didn’t know the proper techniques or that there were even techniques to learn. I thought it was as simple as swallowing or eating. But it truly is an art. I tried to look it up online, but I didn’t get too much help. I knew then I was going to have to learn by hands-on experiences. Quitting was not an option.
Continued: My Experience Learning To Deepthroat