Q&A: I feel terrible after joining my friend and his girlfriend in a threesome. What should I do?

feel terrible after threesomeSo my friend and his girl have been continuously asking me to join them in a threesome after a night out at the bar. At first I didn’t think it would be a good idea but they kept asking and I finally said yes. We just set out the rules that I wouldn’t cum anywhere on or in my friend’s girl which I was completely fine with but everything else they said I can feel comfortable doing.

Fast forward to the time we started. We were all a little drunk and it was just a great vibe. As time went on, we changed positions multiple times and it was all going good. But something happened and my friend just wasn’t into it. I think they could sense that I was unsure so they both kept telling me to keep fucking her. I was honestly planning on stopping but she was practically begging me to keep going.  My friend left the room for a little bit, unsure why.  A couple minutes later my friend comes back in the room and it seemed like he couldn’t get hard again. I was noticing all of this while fucking her in doggy which was amazing.

This is where the problem starts. I’m more of the dominant person in sex and I know his girl was digging that. I was kind of controlling her and telling her what to do next.  The alpha.  Also I don’t mean to say this in any cocky or weird way but I’m just the bigger guy there being 6’3 and about 7 inches, while my friend is around 5’9 and relatively about 4 inches. I’m only giving this information because it seems like this was the downfall of the situation. During this threesome I felt his girl was feeling me more and was only paying attention to me, but I didn’t notice this at the time. So as I noticed him not getting hard while fucking her in doggy, something clicked to my brain and I just started fucking her pretty rough (which she was encouraging me to do). In the side of my head I knew it was wrong but I couldn’t stop. Me and my friend’s girl then switched to missionary and after that I ended up finishing in her.

After that I just felt terrible. I didn’t even want to do that but realized after what I did and I feel sick. I apologized to both of them after and it seemed like the girl was the only one ok with it. I feel what went wrong is that my friend got discouraged when he saw me be there dominant one with his girl which left him not feeling it. I realized this a little while having sex but I didn’t fully see it. This encounter essentially turned into him watching me fuck his girl pretty rough (which is what she asked for).

What do I do now I feel like I will never have him as a friend anymore?

Venice’s response to feel terrible after a threesome

Sounds like another horrible threesome experience from a couple that wasn’t ready, and a friend that was too horny to control himself.

In all honestly, you sound like a horrible friend.  The only hard boundary they had and you broke it.  You saw all the negative signs from him, yet ignored them.  You could have had sex with her, been rough, told her where to move, what position, and done anything you liked, but just simply not cum in her or on her.  

You should feel terrible, you are a terrible friend.  

Ryan’s response to feel terrible after a threesome

I wouldn’t consider you a friend at all.  Your version of this story seems like how it would read from a narcissist’s perspective, who happens to be a horrible lover.  A man so anxious to get pussy, he couldn’t even follow a simple rule and control himself.  Like an incel. The worst type of lover.  Mentioning your friend’s dick size and his height, as if because of that you think he felt inadequate.   He knew about your height prior correct?  Did you walk around on your knees and pretend to be 5’7 until you got naked with them?  Maybe it wasn’t your size, since one can assume a guy with “4 inches” already knows he is on the lower scale of sizes.  Maybe he just wasn’t as excited as he thought he would be seeing a man fuck his girl. 

I am sure you caused a lot of issues in their relationship, but you aren’t totally to blame.  Obviously he wasn’t prepared to have a threesome and didn’t take into consideration that asking a man to join them in bed, doesn’t mean the man will be the passive sex doll that does everything how they want.  Instead they got a horny guy that couldn’t control himself or hold his load properly.   Dumb decisions all the way around.  Good luck with your “friendship”.

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