How deep is too deep? Can Hitting A Woman’s Cervix Be Bad For Her Health.

too deep cervix sexIs cervix penetration possible? 

No.  Your cervix can’t actually be penetrated. That’s because the opening of the cervix, known as the external os, is too narrow for a penis or dildo to enter. It’s usually no bigger than your thumb.

The external os is the opening found on the extremity of the extocervix. The extocervix is the vaginal portion of the cervix projecting free into the anterior wall of the vagina. The external os has anterior and posterior lips. The anterior lip of the external os is shorter and thicker.

The only time the cervical opening expands wide enough for anything to pass through is during child birth.

Is a cervical orgasm really possible?

Yes, women can reach an orgasm through vaginal and cervical stimulation, without stimulating the clitoral glans.  It’s definitely possible, but it isn’t for everyone. However, a more reliable way for a woman to reach an orgasm, is through clitoral stimulation (not penetrative).  

Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.

Only one-quarter of women reliably experience orgasm during intercourse—no matter how long it lasts, no matter what size the man’s penis, and no matter how the woman feels about the man or the relationship.

This statistic comes not from just one study but from a comprehensive analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her fascinating book The Case of the Female Orgasm (Harvard University Press).

As an analogy for the fellas, we will list comparable male orgasms that also do not require stimulation of the glans.  Specifically, prostate orgasms.  This can be achieved from inside the anus or by rubbing the testicles along with the taint and anus area from the outside.   Also comparable to a man stroking his penis but staying under the tip of the penis.  The vibrations, the movement, and the pushback, all create an orgasm with little to no direct stimulation of his glans.    While both men and women can enjoy hands-free orgasms by a simple kegel technique which involves clenching your pubic muscles, which can lead to orgasms with both genders.   Not to mention, the hands-free naughty secret of a lot of women, syntribation

But back to the cervix (pun).

Deep penetration can cause the vagina to contract, much like a clitoral orgasm can do, without the huge slow build up.  I have noticed that if I have deep penetration orgasms, it just hits me all the sudden and I get this insane high that numbs my entire body.  No matter what is going on, I want my man’s thrusting to be much harder.  This feeling can last for as long as he can thrust.  So the end of this orgasm for me, is when my husband stops thrusting.  Which is usually due to him orgasming with me.  But he knows, when I am at the point, keep going for as long as possible, punish my insides, and get as deep as you can.  This feeling gives me the ultimate sexual high.   And as previously stated in various blogs, this orgasm is nothing like a clitoral orgasm.  

morning woodCan you injure your cervix?

Yes, it’s can actually bruise your cervix.  

The first time I had a bruised cervix, I thought I was dying. I woke up and felt cramps that were worse than any period cramps I’d experienced in my life, even though I was weeks away from my period. It was like someone was stabbing me with a red-hot fire poker, deep down in my gut, over and over again. I knew that something was wrong — the pain was so bad that I broke out in sweats and threw up — but I had no idea what it could be. Food poisoning? The worst hangover of my life? I didn’t even consider that I could be bruised inside my body.

Your cervix can be bruised depending on your position, your partner’s size, the thrusting aggression, and/or if you aren’t turned on enough.  It could be all of the factors above, or just one.  I’ve experienced these cramps as well as bleeding the day of and after particularly rough sessions.  There have even been times where even standing up straight has caused sharp cramps in my lower stomach.  Imagine walking to the bathroom after sex, slumped over hobbling like an elderly grandma to the bathroom.   Every man’s dream huh?!

For the record, I’d suggest for anyone reading this blog that is dealing with bleeding after sex, go see your OB-gyn.  It could be an ovarian cyst bursting, among other things, and it’s better to be safe than sorry.  Especially because these types of things can lead to an infection.  For me, it was simply a bruised cervix.

Thankfully, as we get turned on, our vaginas expand and can get up to 7 inches in length.   However, not all of us have the same size vagina, much like men do not have the same size penises.   If you are having pain during sex that is uncomfortable, let your partner know.  Although there isn’t much information regarding long-term health issues with being fucked by a large cock, I’d assume it’s safe to say having someone torture you daily with a huge dick isn’t going to be healthy for your body long-term.   Communication is the key. 

 

Do you ever get turned on or wet during a Brazilian Wax?

Brazilian WaxDo you ever get turned on or wet during a Brazilian Wax?

We have always tried to help our readers with the various things they go through in their life, from How To Shave Your Balls Properly, to Learning to Deepthroat.  Today we are going to go back into the grooming area and talk a bit about being embarrassed to go to a professional for a Brazilian Wax.  

Hey, my husband had his penis tattooed, so getting a wax should be a piece of cake right?

What is a Brazilian wax?

With a Brazilian wax, the pubic hair is groomed and removed from the front of the woman’s pubic bone, around the external genitals (labia), between the upper thighs, and around the anus.

Depending on your preferences, you can choose to remove all hair in the area or leave a small strip of hair in the front.


 

Is Getting Wet Embarrassing or Normal?

To ease the anxiety people feel with going to an esthetician for a Brazilian Wax, we have gathered responses from people who spoke about their experiences getting their private areas waxed, and what they felt about getting wet or an erection during an appointment.  Should you be embarrassed or not?

I got very wet the last time I visited my waxing place. It’s not because I was sexually attracted to her. It’s because my new aesthetician was very silent during the process which shifted my focus on the physical stimulus. The ones I’ve had before usually kept me engaged in conversation which kept me distracted.  I can’t lie, I am actually too embarrassed to go back to the same aesthetician.


I got extremely wet last week when I went and got mine done. Even worse, it was my best friends new salon she just opened and her waxer was training someone so there were two ladies elbow deep in my vagina. 


I used to get laser down there and I didn’t get aroused but sometimes I felt wet wet because it just gets wet for no sexual reason sometimes.


I get wet every time I get waxed, the temperature just does that to me. I guarantee they’ve all seen this reaction before and don’t care. I’ve taken to just taking a pack of wipes and going “wipe break” when I can feel things going on, or tbh sticking a tampon in before my wax and tucking the string in to keep things “contained”. I’ve talked at length with my waxer about her “horror stories” and I promise that a vagina behaving like a vagina is going to be the absolute bottom of her wtf ladder.


Getting wet is very common, and not even in an aroused sort of way. I’ve got a great wax lady and she works with the speed of light on Brazilians – she says mostly because it’s common for the vagina to start self lubricating after about five minutes. A general fear / pain / stimulus response.

So I guess if you’re gonna get wet anyway might as well be the pleasant kind. They probably can’t tell nor care, aside from it being a bit of a hassle?


Totally normal. I actually got aroused the last couple times due to the level of pressure the waxer used when doing the prep wipe. That didn’t phase me one bit. Her always being behind schedule…. a whole different story


 

The Brozilian Wax 

Women aren’t the only ones that get a Brazilian wax.  Some men refer to them as “Brozilian” but here are a few of the fellas responses:  

I’m a guy who routinely gets Brazilians. You just gotta ask around for a place that will do guys because I’d say at least half won’t. You just treat it like it’s business and no big deal, because that’s what it is.

I had several waxings done with no issues so I was feeling pretty confident about my ability to ummmm “control” myself. Then for whatever reason, I just started getting an erection during one. Not like full on, but a good half chub and I fought that shit like my life depended on it. I was super embarrassed and there is no way the aesthetician didn’t notice, but she continued on and the chub went away like it never happened. I thought that would never happen to me, but it did, and it wasn’t a big deal. I think I handled it as well as one could and I’ll go back once this pandemic is over.


I get an erection sometimes when getting waxed. Sometimes I don’t. I’ve been going to the same person for years and she’s never even mentioned it, besides after the first time to reassure me it happens and not to worry about it.

Just go back when you’re hair is long enough and get the same person if she did a good job. If she didn’t then ask for someone different.


I got a boner the last time I went for a Brazilian wax, which was particularly embarrassing because it was also a training session with a few newbies in the room observing. Fact of the matter is, it’s a job, they’re dealing with people’s privates as a part of the job. I’m fairly certain it’s just something that happens and I doubt they’ll pay it any mind. I mean, I get feeling embarrassed, but I’m also 100% certain that there is no need to dwell on it, either!

 

If this above happens, be embarrassed.   Getting an erection is one thing, but having an actual orgasm during an appointment with an esthetician in training?  Notice still, the experienced esthetician doesn’t even bat an eye.

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Q&A: Cleaning Your Bed Sheets Between Partners

I have a partner who has a lot of other partners. And I’m cool with that, I do see other people too. We usually meet and have sex at her place. Which suits me as well.

But as far as I can tell, she doesn’t seem concerned with the hygiene of her bedsheets.

I could have sex with her on it, finish on her bed, and she won’t mind sleeping on it afterwards. So she probably does the same with other people.

I already asked her before laying there if she was confident about the hygiene of the bedsheet. She brushed it off like it was a weird question and she was obviously sleeping on hygienic sheets.

The issue is that I’m pretty sure the bed would be dazzling if we put it under fluorescent light, if you know what I mean…

But maybe it’s completely unharmful and normal in the hookup scene, and everyone is aware of it, and nobody really cares…

So am I being weird with my wish not to be bathing in other people’s bodily fluids when I get on the bed ?

Venice’s response to cleaning bedsheets

It’s easy to forget how important it is to change your sheets when you have a new lover.  Whether it be because you are comfortable in your own bed, or you just have poor hygiene, change your dang sheets!  

In fact, change your sheets regularly regardless of having a new partner or not.  It’s just good hygiene to keep your bedding clean and smelling good.  Most of us sweat a lot while we sleep, so after a week or so, it’s time to change those sheets.

Ryan’s response to cleaning bedsheets

For me, this is obvious.  Whether inviting over a third person into our bedroom or after the third person leaves our bedroom, we change our sheets.  Especially with all the extreme things we do. For me, this is common sense. 

Future title suggestion: “Clean your genitals between partners.”   

The same can be said for the vagina.  Please clean your vagina thoroughly if you are sleeping with various men.  I understand that douche is bad for the vagina but so is another man’s semen on my crotch, or in my nostrils when I try to have oral sex with you.  If you have multiple partners and you let one of them cum inside you, please make sure it’s clean!  Whether you are a swinger (especially swingers because usually their spouse orgasms inside them regularly) or a girl that has various partners.  I get this may be some weird kink or something, but at least let the other person know.  We can clearly tell and…smell.  And I mean CLEARLY. 

Can you imagine a man sleeping with one woman, wiping it down, then sleeping with another woman the next day?   Baby, my penis naturally cleanses itself on my underwear, that smell is totally normal….

No.

 

5 Sexy Activities To Do During a Quarantine.

5 Sexy Activities to do During a Quarantine.  

Really?  You guys need help figuring out what type of sexual activities you should be doing when you are stuck under quarantine?  

I don’t need help playing with myself during a quarantine, I’ve been doing this for years!

So other than masturbation, what sexual activities can you do during a quarantine?  We listed a few things below.

1. Dress up for yourself or your partner.

It doesn’t matter if you are married or single.  Dress up.  Put on something sexy.  If you have someone you can send these photos to, do that.  But there are times when looking at my own photos nude or with very little clothing turns me on.  

My husband and I found creative ways to use our masks to cover our bodies and send each other photos!  Talk about practicing safe sex!  This will be a future feature in naughty selfies once we get back to work!  Oh yea, we aren’t stopping with the naughty selfies (that we both normally took from our office bathrooms), we just had to put that hobby on hold while we work from home. 

2. Play sex games.

Whether it be a VR Sex Game or various sex games for couples, you can’t go wrong with gaming and sex.  Nothing can occupy your mind better than sex.  But a very close second is games.  I don’t care if you have to play candy crush and every time you beat an impossible level, you have to give the other person oral sex.  Whatever you can come up with, come up with it!  Sex game ideas are unlimited!

Leisure Suit Larry has prepared us well for this exact moment, make him proud! 

Quarantine sex activities mirror3. Grab a mirror and explore yourself and your insides.  

A lot of times you may be a bit too busy to sit down and really explore yourself.   Take this quarantine time to explore your body.  Grab a mirror, check out your body, your genitals, and even your ass.   If you are a man, explore under your balls, your guiche, your taint, and even your ass.  There is more to you that women are turned on by than just your penis.  Trust me.  Open your ass and take notice of how your rim stretches as you open it.  That’s why it feels so good around your dick (or you feel so good to him).  I’d suggest even sticking your fingers inside yourself and notice the textures, the warmth, and how tight it feels.  Both women and men can do this with their bodies.  Take time to educate yourself, learn exactly what makes you tick, and why your future partners may want to explore you the same way you just explored yourself!

4. Groom yourself

Why on earth would you jump in the shower, grab a razor, and shave as fast as you can?  Not only is this bad form, but it is also a tad bit dangerous.  Take care of your goodies.  And what better time than now to get in the bathtub, take your time, and shave your body properly.  Get every nook and cranny and get yourself nice and smooth.   Feeling good starts with looking good.  And what better way to look good than to get your body immaculate from head to toe.  This is the perfect time!

5. Start a sex blog!

How about that idea?  Although we have been doing this long before a quarantine, it really did start because we are both homebodies and introverts that enjoyed sex and blogging.  Welllllll…you are at home with nothing else to do except have sex and twiddle your thumbs.  Start a blog!  Start a pornhub account!  Start a social media account and share yourself!  Start anything you want to start, because…why not!  If this quarantine has taught us anything, life is short.  Way too short to worry about what others think of you.  Do what makes you feel good, what you enjoy, and don’t turn back.  And I will tell you this, no one, and I mean no one is reading this number 5 on this list that isn’t interested in sex and blogging.  In fact, maybe 1% of the people that view this page will read this paragraph!  And if that 1% was you, start a dang sex blog and share your adventures.     

The Great Hand Job Heist

The Great Hand Job Heist

In searching Google with hand jobs on my mind, I wanted reaffirmation that I wasn’t alone in loving a great massage with a happy ending.  I googled, “Why do hand jobs feel so good?”  Don’t ask me why, but I did.  To my surprise, I found out that most people do not agree.  Not only that, the search results instead pulled off a great heist. Rather than me finding out why hand jobs feel so good, I found out why they feel so bad!  Hence the title:  The Great Hand Job Heist.  

A poll taken by Cosmopolitan shows 18 different opinions about how men feel about hand jobs.  The results were shocking at first, but once age is taken into account, it all makes sense.  It’s safe to assume that most of them have never felt a real hand job / massage.  It’s also safe to assume a few of them have never been in relationship long enough that anything except actual vaginal sex satisfies them. 

At least, that’s my take.   As a couple that has started our 3rd decade of marriage, hand jobs have been the savior.  


If it wasn’t for hand jobs, my vagina, ass, and even mouth would literally be shredded beef.   A girl needs this option and should learn how to do it so good that her man can’t help but to request it.  Trust me.  From the talking, to the finish, you can make a hand job the top of his list.    – Venice


The Cosmopolitan Opinions:

1. “It’s like eating a fast-food hamburger. You can grill one at home and it tastes amazing. Or you can get in your car, drive 15 minutes, wait in a drive-through line, and get a way worse hamburger. Like, it tastes awful and you know you could’ve done a better job yourself.” —Jeff, 24
 
2. “Like a vagina, but worse.” —Eric, 25
 
3. “There’s no novelty to it. I can reach my own penis with my hand no problem, but I can’t suck my own dick … so I think blow jobs would always be more desirable. Maybe that would be different if men had stubby arms.” —Shaun, 25
 
4. “LOL.” —Josh, 25
 
5. “You know that saying ‘if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all’? Hand jobs are the sex equivalent of that.” —Zack, 24
 
 
6. “It feels like you’re touching yourself but your hand fell asleep and so you’re fumbling with your penis awkwardly.” —Kyle, 23
 
7. “Once in college, I got one that actively hurt. And my penis was all red and swollen the next day, and I went to Student Care, and they told me it was friction burn. So it feels like friction burn on your dick.” —Ken, 29
 
8. “A hand job feels like jerking off but it’s better because it’s not your hand.” —Jose, 30
 
9. “I would never expect a girl to excel at it, because that’s weird and would probably make me wonder why and how they’re so good at it, but they’re usually painfully bad.” —Pete, 25

When I first copied these responses, I actually laughed at a few of them.  Not because they were wrong, but because they were funny.  I also thought that I was going to add responses to each opinion, but chose not to because the flow of negativity was too good. It makes much more sense to just let it all out. What I do notice though, is that the older the person is, the less harsh they seem towards the idea of hand jobs.  

For example:

10. “I don’t think this is easy to answer unless we establish if there’s some kind of lubrication or not. A lubeless hand job? It’s almost guaranteed to be awful. Either the grip is too hard, or too loose, or the rhythm is off, or some kind of combination thereof. The stars have to align perfectly for a lubeless hand job to work. A lubed-up hand job can basically feel like a blow job, so … much, much better.” —Kevin, 28

Number 10 is pretty accurate.  For me, when I think of hand job, it wouldn’t cross my mind that some hand jobs are done without lube.  Much like it wouldn’t cross my mind if someone asked about anal sex, it would be without lube.  In my opinion, the two go hand and hand (pun). You wouldn’t give someone a serious hand job without lube of some sort.  Saliva, coconut oil, something.

Can you imagine Cosmopolitan making a poll about anal sex (assuming no lube is being used):

1. Anal is like the orphan child of sex.  It’s everything the vagina isn’t.  It really burns and the one time I tried it I ended up in the ER the next day because of wounds to my penis.

2. If you could imagine a vagina in a desert with sand for miles upon miles.  That would be a woman’s anus.  Now imagine sticking your penis inside of those sand dunes and enjoying  yourself. 

3. I could shove my penis into sandpaper and get a better sensation.  It’s like the vagina except extremely painful.

4.  We both ended up in the hospital that night.  Not good.

5. Are we talking about lubeless anal, or anal with lube?  

That’s pretty much how this entire article goes.  Although I do not want to attack Cosmopolitan, the article does shows the miseducation of those asking and answering the question.  It should have been clarified, in our opinion.  Because to ask about hand jobs without lube, is equivalent to asking about anal without lube.  Or even having sex with a vagina when the girl isn’t turned on or lubricated properly.  And this is the number 1 search result when asking “How do hand jobs feel?”  

The Great Hand Job Heist.  For entertainment purposes, let’s continue.

11. “I dunno. It’s just … I have hands. I can do that.” —Jared, 22

12. “I don’t remember the first time I ever masturbated, but I imagine every hand job is pretty much on par with that experience. Except I don’t freak out when I come.” —Ryan, 25
 
13. “I was never a fan of the ‘old-fashioned’ until recently. It’s usually slow and awkward and doesn’t feel all that wonderful. But it feels like ecstasy when done correctly. A complete detachment from my thoughts and concentrating on the physical senses that overcome my body and mind.” —Matt, 28
 
14. “Hand jobs? I don’t know. I’m not 14.” —Keith, 25

Number 14 is interesting…because he is right.  A hand job may be something you enjoy at 14, then quit enjoying in your 20s.  For the straight man, the vagina takes over as the most important thing on earth.  Oral sex is always a close second.  Anal is attempted a few times, but you both agree that’s on special occasions.  However, in your late 30s and 40s, the full experience becomes more important. The vagina is no longer the holy grail, but just one of the things that make women the most amazing creatures on earth.   

15. “It’s like having surf and turf on the menu and then you order the chicken fingers.” —Vince, 28
 
16.  “I have to be real here … I was a late bloomer, so I think I skipped the whole period where everyone was getting hand jobs. By the time I had any luck with the ladies, you were probably just having sex. But I got a hand job once and … I never had any interest in getting another. It wasn’t bad, it was just OK. I think that says it all. —Colin, 24
 
17. “OK, I know people probably shit all over hand jobs, but if someone knows how to do it, they can be really good. You have to use lotion, though, and unlike a blow job, she can suck on your nipples at the same time. Every guy should try that once. ” —Evan, 28
 
18. “Hand jobs are a consolation prize. I have never had a hand job that didn’t feel like, ‘Oh, I’m not in the mood for intercourse, but here, take this. Thanks for playing.’ I don’t think hand jobs are bad, I just think it’s tough to enjoy them when you know things could’ve gone a whole lot better.” —Jeff, 26

These last responses really aren’t that bad.  For the most part, the older the person answering, the more they understand it really is about how well the hand job is being done.  You can’t ask a 22 year old how a hand job feels.  He has had so little experience in his life, so little vagina in his life, that anything other than a vagina or mouth would be a let down.  However, you ask a man that has had his share of vagina, especially those of us in relationships where sex isn’t rationed, a hand job is just as good as anything a woman can offer.   Especially when she knows what she is doing.

What A Hand Job Should Feel Like

For us, we have been intimate twice a day, for the last 7 years.   Probably longer, but clearly our article written in 2013 shows how long we have been practicing The Circle. Back then it helped our relationship grow to another level, and continues to help us bond each day.  It’s the type of connection that keeps us as one unit, rather than separate people that use each other for their own pleasure.  True soulmates, if you believe in that.  However, it has also given us reason to find other ways to be intimate besides sticking my penis inside of her vagina and digging for gold.  


You can totally get into his head while stroking him.  Unlike sex, oral sex, or kissing (making out), you can actually talk in detail. Your words and thoughts can take over his experience.  From scenarios that may never happen, to outrageous fantasies that break all your boundaries, to just telling him how much you want to taste his cum.  Or how much you love holding his dick.  There are times I will go into detail about how beautiful the colors of his dick are, how perfect his swollen head looks, to talking about every turn and curve his veins make in his shaft and how much I love looking at them.  This is the type of talk that a woman just can’t do while she is being fucked or sucking his dick. – Venice


The things we can’t do properly during sex, kissing, and oral:

Talking.  In fact, a lot of times during oral talking is the last thing we want to hear.  “Just be quiet and let me just hear that beautiful slurping sound.”  I know if I try to talk while going down on my wife, she will reach down and pull my head more into her vagina. This is her way of saying, “Please shut the fuck up” as nicely as possible.

There is an unspoken (pun) 6 word rule.   During sex or oral.

“I love you so fucking much.”

“Please cum in me.”

“Your dick is so fucking big.”

“Fuck it hurts so bad.”

“Your pussy is so fucking tight.”

“It’s so fucking wet.”

“Where do you want my cum?”

“Who’s your daddy?”

“Look at me while you suck.”

“Suck on my lips.”

“Fuck me with your tongue.”

And the list goes on and on.  Although dirty talk is fun, you are a bit limited because of what you are doing.  Whether it be sucking, fucking, or kissing.  You may dirty talk between transitions, but for the most part your actions are much louder than words.  And there is nothing wrong with that.

What you can do the entire time during a hand job:

Talking.

 A hand job is more than just 6 words.  A good hand job can be filled with entire stories of various adventures you both can come up with.  Not only can you talk, because you are relaxed and totally caught in the moment, but the person giving you the hand job can talk as well.  Whether about how much she loves your dick, how it feels, how much she can’t wait to see you cum, or sexy stories about the things you have done, may do, or may never do.  No real rules when it comes to fantasies. 

Some of the comparisons about hand jobs being another form of masturbation is correct.  However, why the hell is masturbation a bad thing?   Masturbation can be amazing, if you know what you are doing.  Edging, dirty thoughts, and controlling how long you release your oxytocin.  A lot of times men will masturbate nearly twice as long as they have actual intercourse.  They edge themselves to make sure they have a huge release.  When done right, masturbation is amazing.  In fact, it has been talked about by various women that their men will leave them asleep (or turn down sex) and later get caught masturbating. This is extremely common.  Why?  Because you can use your mind, your fantasies, and even think about all the skeletons in your closet while watching a porn video.

Now imagine having a person that you can open up with and experience  your deepest darkest thoughts and fantasies together.