What Creative Things Can You Do With Your Man’s Cum?

creative things to do with cumWhat Creative Things Can You Do With Your Man’s Cum?

First of all, please check out our older article: 31 Days of Cum Shots.  If you go to the photo gallery every single day has a story.  I did various things with his cum, including letting him cum in my morning chai and sending him pictures throughout the day of me finishing him/my cup of chai.  That was definitely a fun and a  creative way to turn my husband on.  I believe there was another day where my husband came inside me and then took a spoon to scrape up the cum that spilled out of my vagina and spoon-fed me.  This was also amazing because it wasn’t just his cum, it was both of our bodies together.  Very intimate and fun.  Speaking of mixing body fluids, you could try a vagina cocktail.  

Sometimes I will hold his cum in my mouth and he will stick his dick back into my vagina and start fucking me again.  He is multi-orgasmic.  The whole time he fucks me, he is looking down at me while I play with his cum in my mouth. Exactly as he orgasms the second time I will open my mouth and let him see me swallow his first load…


For me, my man’s semen is like icing on the cake (or cookie), semi-literally speaking.  Every time we have sex, getting to see my husband orgasm is my goal. I work just as hard to make him cum (dirty talk, moving in sync with him, etc.) as he does to please me.  With that being said, I feel satisfied knowing that I’ve made his hot juices flow from his dick.  And that is such a turn on to me.

What I do to his cum doesn’t start when it comes out – it starts long before.  When his dick is in me, I cup his balls and rub under them and tell him, “Let me massage the cum out of your balls.”  I tease him.  I talk about his balls as if they’re also being fucked. What I do to his cum starts BEFORE the actual orgasm.

Sometimes I stick my finger inside his anus and rub his prostate.  If you haven’t tried this, try it!  Right before he ejaculates you can literally feel his whole prostate swell up and harden.  The cum stays inside this beautiful walnut inside his anus, and you can massage it the entire time he releases.  In fact, he will release much more cum when you do this.   And more cum means more to play with!

Sometimes he will ask me to keep his cum in my mouth as he heads out to work.  He will let me know he is going to call me once he is on the road and tell me when to swallow.  So when he calls, I can barely talk because his cum and my saliva have really built up…


creative things to do with cum

Try using his first cum shot as lube for anal!

But it doesn’t stop there.  After he cums, that is something entirely different.  If he cums in my vagina or ass, there isn’t much I can do with it except to tell him to unload every drop in me or say, “Empty your balls out inside me.”  There have been times where he will pull out as he is fucking me and cum on my anus.   He will then use his own semen as lube for anal sex and fuck me again.  This actually feels amazing because there is nothing close to using actual semen as lubrication.  It nearly takes away all friction and makes for an extremely pleasurable experience.

Sometimes he will just cum inside me and clean my insides with his tongue.  We will kiss afterwards and make out with our juices everywhere.  If he cums on me, I get to put on a show.  I love him watching me when I clean myself up.  I will scoop his cum off my body with my fingers and lick them clean as if I’m getting the last bit of angel food cake batter out from between my fingers.  As I lick, I will look him in the eyes and say “yum” with every slurp.  I like to reassure him that I love his taste and that his sperm is my favorite spice.  If he cums directly on my vagina, I’ll rub him into my labia and inner thighs.  When I am done, I will lick my fingers clean.  One of my favorite things to do to force him in my mouth so he doesn’t shoot all over the place and catch all of his cum in my mouth. I know this is simple, but nothing feels better than getting semen straight from a man’s dick. I don’t want any salt from my body, I want it pure.  Straight from the source.  That way nothing is wasted.  Before I actually swallow, l blow bubbles,  gargle, or slurp it between my lips so he can watch me play with him.

creative things to do with cumSometimes he will ask me to keep his cum in my mouth as he heads out to work.  He will let me know he is going to call me once he is on the road and tell me when to swallow.  So when he calls, I can barely talk because his cum and my saliva have really built up.  But it’s actually pretty sexy and intimate.  To know he is in my mouth and I am waiting for him to call me and tell me to swallow while he is driving to work.  You have to be creative.  Sometimes I will hold his cum in my mouth and he will stick his dick back into my vagina and start fucking me again.  The whole time he fucks me, he is looking down at me while I play with his cum in my mouth.  My  husband is multi-orgasmic.  Exactly as he orgasms the second time I will open my mouth and let him see me swallow his first load.  For me, it’s almost like being came in twice at the same time.  It’s very intimate and exotic because I can taste his load go down my throat as I feel his penis releasing another load inside my pussy.  As he orgasms, instead of his eyes rolling back or him losing focus, he is paying close attention to everything I am doing with his cum in my mouth and his load.  His second orgasm is purely based off the excitement of what I am doing to his first.  And if you do everything perfect, you may even get a third load in your ass, which we call a “triple threat.”  It’s a very fun and powerful feeling.  Imagine in a matter of seconds, swallowing a mouthful of cum as you feel a penis twitching inside your vagina.  Moments later, you feel your ass being stretched as he nearly dry heaves a third load into your body.  And when it’s all over, you hadn’t slept with three men or made a porn, you just satisfied the man of your dreams.  


Instead of swallowing, I let him look down in my cum filled mouth and stick his dick back down my throat.  In other words, his cum becomes my throat lube as he fucks my mouth for a second time.

creative things to do with cum

Just recently, I discovered a new kind of cum play that really drives my husband wild (The first time we ever did it is actually in the article previously mentioned, you can see the story here:  January 8, 2013 Cum Shot).  We start out face-fucking, and as you may or may not know, when a man cums and his dick is plunged deep into your throat, the semen goes straight down and you cannot taste or feel anything.  But here is the twist: instead of being all the way in me when he cums, he will pull out of my throat and fill my mouth up with his first huge cum shot.   Instead of swallowing, I let him look down in my cum filled mouth and stick his dick back down my throat.  In other words, his cum becomes my throat lube as he fucks my mouth a second time.  I absolutely do not swallow to make sure his whole cum shot covers his dick as he again fucks my throat.   After a few seconds, I can feel his  hard wet dick drive so deep in my throat his ball piercing and crotch grinds into my teeth.  This time, instead of pulling out, he unloads his second cumshot deep in my throat, I can feel his urethra pipe on the underside of his shaft twitching on my tongue and his balls spasming on my lips.  I can also watch as anus tighten and loosen with each release.  Afterwards, the semen from both the first and second orgasms are pushed down my slippery, well-lubed throat.  It can get sloppy from my spit, cum, and tears, but it’s extremely hot, submissive, and downright sexy!

There is so much more you can do with your man’s cum if you really wanted to go above and beyond.  Attitude is everything and a paid porn star eating her co-star’s cum off an ice cream  sandwich shouldn’t be able to out perform you.  Is money more powerful than love?  For me, it’s not.  I will proudly do anything with Ryan’s cum, including the most insane ideas I can come up with, like sniffing his whole cum shot off a mirror.  

Let him cum onto a mirror.  If you want to be cute, take a credit card and shape his ropes into a long line.  Glide your nose across the mirror and sniff his cum like he is a drug.  If you do it right, you can open your mouth when you are done and show him all the cum you just sniffed.  And then swallow him as well….


Other Creative Things Can You Do With Your Man’s Cum

Cum popsicle or sperm ice cubes   

Simply ejaculate your man into a shot glass and add kool-aid or water to the glass.  Put a small toothpick through a small piece of paper that you lay on top of the shot glass (so it stays centered) and put the shot glass in the freezer.  After a few hours, you can either use the sperm ice cube in an adult drink and enjoy your man later, or let him use the ice cube on your nipples and vagina as foreplay the next time you want to spice things up.  If you want to get extremely creative, mix his cum with water and make an ice dildo. 

Cum Lube

Much like the previous idea, save his semen in the freezer so you can use it later.  Rather than leaving it ice, warm it up to use as lube.  No, his semen will not go bad.  There is nothing on earth that is a better lube than his semen.  It’s what all lubes try to emulate.  Whether it be for a night you plan anal, an intense vaginal session, or just a sexy hand job.  Or if you want to get real nasty, pour his warmed semen all over his penis and give him a blow job.  Much like my stories above, you can blow his mind tasting his cum the entire time his new orgasm builds.  If he is multi orgasmic, you can do this in a single sitting.  If he is not, simply have him cum into a shot glass and let him know you want to save it for later.  Trust me, he will let you.

Cum Shots

Great idea, especially if you both are already drinking and get a bit horny.   You can turn it into a game if you like.  If you can make him cum faster than 10 minutes, he has to take the shot.  If you can’t, you have to take it.  Either way, it’s fun.

Just go down on him and give him a blow job.  Make sure you have a shot glass handy.  When he is about to cum, stroke him off into the shot glass.  Add some rum and take the shot.  And that’s a whole other type of cum shot.

creative things to do with cumSniffing His Cum Off A Mirror Like A Drug

Let him cum onto a mirror.  If you want to be cute, take a credit card and  shape his ropes into a long line.  Glide your nose across the mirror and sniff his cum like he is a drug.  If you do it right, you can open your mouth when you are done and show him all the cum you just sniffed.  Yes, you can actually hack it up from the back of your throat back into your mouth.   And then swallow him.  For me, this clears my sinuses.  And surprisingly, no it doesn’t burn.  

Cum Cocktail / Sex Cocktail Inside Your Vagina

This one is a bit extreme, but we enjoy it.  We called it a sex cocktail because it deals with a lot more than just cum.  However, cum is an ingredient.   First you give each other oral sex.  Make sure you give him extremely sloppy head so his entire shaft has that deep saliva, that only comes up when you gag all over him.  This is your lube and a key ingredient to your sex cocktail.  He should also eat your pussy and make sure he digs his tongue up into your hole.  You also want to be as sloppy as possible.  You can also both spit on his during sex to make sure you have enough saliva ingredient inside you.  This is optional, but if you squirt or can control your urine, pee a little and let him do the same.  I will squirt throughout the session to make sure I add my flavor.  My husband has a bit of trouble peeing while erect, so he will stop and concentrate for a few moments and just fill me up with his urine.  At this point, it’s a mess.  He will then stick his dick back inside me and fuck me until we both cum.  At the end of the session, we should have double saliva, double urine, double cum, and my vagina totally full of all this flavor.  I will get up and we will 69 each other.  I get to taste myself on his dick, he gets to drink the cocktail out of my body. 

This isn’t everything you can do with a sex cocktail, but we will save the Bloody Mary version for a different day.  

Cum Seasoning

The taste of his cum on your meal will not ruin the flavor.  Depending on what you are eating, you won’t even be able to taste it. What it will do is elevate how much your man loves you and thinks about you.  Take a serving of his cum, throw it in with an ego, fry it.  Scrambled eggs and sperm.  Maybe even throw some ketchup on it if you want to get crazy!  

Don’t forget to ask him if he would like to try it himself.  

Even on his worse day, if you left him for whatever reason, he’d always remember this type of thing and know you were one of the wildest women he has ever been with.  Goals right?  For some of us ladies who actually do enjoy the flavor, it just makes our food better.  Win, win.

Coffee and Cream, A Long Day At Work and Selfies

I’ve used  my husband’s cum inside my coffee for cream a lot.  The catch here isn’t just that you worship his cum enough to enjoy it all throughout your work day, but you also send selfies of yourself drinking the coffee.  Your man loves watching you swallow him right?  So how about he watches you drink an entire coffee, for a span of 4 hours, slowly swallowing him and your morning coffee.   This is something we did as one of my 31 days of swallowing cum years ago.  But it was so fun I still do it every now and then just to tease him.

Sexy right?


So all these cool things we have done with our cum in this blog but I haven’t even said one of the most basic ideas.  The classic facial.  Sexy huh?  Well, how about you save his cum one morning and store it however you like.  Whether it be plastic bag, a sippy cup, or whatever tickles your fantasy.  Later in the day, call your husband while he is at work on Facetime and give him some…well, face time.  Let him know you have his morning cum and let him watch you drip it down onto your face and mouth for him to watch.  Chances are, no woman has ever done anything like this for him in his life.  Well, be that woman.  

Ladies, this is about making memories.  Do you think he will ever forget the time you called him at work over Facetime and gave yourself a facial with his morning cum 8 hours later?  Of course he won’t.  Imagine the possibilities of a long distance relationship and saving his cum during a visit, so when back home you can turn him on again, while also enjoying him when you miss him the most.  

If you want to be even more creative, there are a lot of new toys where you can play with each other long distance.  Most of these toys use your phone to function.   So while he uses his phone to make your vibrator vibrate to his touch, wouldn’t it be nice to have some of his cum saved to use as lube/drip on your lips/swallow while he watches you cum for him over Facetime?  

Originally Published on: Sep 12, 2013 


Dirty Talk: Lesbian Play with a BBW / Big Black Woman, My Co Worker

The Dirty Talk Intro & Disclaimer:  Everything in the story below was random and created on the spot while massaging my husband.  No filters, no rules, no boundaries, just a story and situation created to help my husband orgasm and enjoy my experience.  All dirty talk is usually pure fantasy.  I use this dirty talk as mental porn while my husband’s mind is totally open because of the sensations and what I am putting his body through.  When a man is horny and on the edge of an orgasm, anything goes.  I can almost get inside his head and control his fantasies, dirty thoughts, and talk him into an orgasm in the exact moment my story hits it’s climax.  It may be things I would never try or want to try, but just so kinky it pushes him to climax.  Or just things in the future we would try, but it has to be right.  During my stories he will ask me questions while I talk.  I will include these to the best of my memory.  In fact, every story is to the best of my memory, as I do not know remember all the exact details.   

The stories may read a bit broken or short, but please keep in mind this is things I mumble while stroking my husband, slight details, turning myself on as I rub his dick until he cums in my mouth.

Dirty Talk: Lesbian Play with a BBW / Big Black Woman, My Co Worker

I lay my husband down in bed and we talk for about 10 to 20 minutes while I rub his penis.  This is a routine for us, so it will eventually lead to dirty talk and me giving him a massage.  It’s after work, so this is a good release for him, and a good time for me to have him wrapped around my finger for the rest of the night. 

I am actually dressed up in lingerie because we were supposed to do a photo shoot as I massaged him.  Somewhere along the lines, our plans changed and we decided to go over a story I once told him about wanting to fuck a female co-worker that was always nice to me. Truth be told, any woman that treats me kindly, regardless of physical attraction, I find myself wanting to explore her.  That’s just the truth.  I care more about a woman that treat me nicely, than the typical Barbie characteristics.

My co-worker’s name is Cherice.  She is a thick black woman that smells and dresses nicely.  She is always smiling and she is extremely friendly.  This is the type of woman I’d love to explore. She is also a perfect for a story to make my husband orgasm.  

so how did flirt with her?

I just asked her if she would like to have lunch.  Although I have lunch with various co-workers, I had never asked her before.  She smiled and said sure.  I offered to pay.  She let me know that since I was paying we will take her car. 

As we are driving to the restaurant, I start fanning my Barbie doll dress to get air up my crotch and thighs.  She asks me if I am hot.  I nod and continue to fan, exposing most of my thighs to her.  I assume, my perfume and body spray aroma is spreading throughout the car.  The air is literally blowing into my crotch, up my neck hole, and out into the air she is breathing. I can see her watching my legs and glancing up at me to see if I mind her looking.  I don’t.

what do you do?

I just smile.

what are you guys wearing?

We are both in skirts, hers longer than mine.  I am in a Barbie doll dress.  She is in a longer skirt with long sleeves.  But it still hugs her body.

do you make a move on her?

Yes, I compliment her legs while she is driving and reach over and touch her leg.  Innocently, I slightly push her skirt up and rub her leg.  I let her know her legs feel so smooth.

what does she do?

She is nervous.  But she doesn’t move or respond negatively so I continue to slide my hand up her leg.  I can see her squeezing the steering wheel.  I can tell she doesn’t know what I am doing, but doesn’t want me to stop.   I continue to lift her dress as I slide my hand up her inner thigh.  She gasps as I get to her panties.  She still hasn’t said a word to me.  I am now rubbing her crotch, careful as to make sure she doesn’t want me to stop.

how do you know?

I am watching her face and eyes.  She is turned on but doesn’t know how to react appropriately.  I may be the first girl that has ever touched her.

Her legs are thick so I can’t get down to deep in her lip area, so I instead rub her pubic air, maybe around her clit area.  I am doing this over her panties, so the feeling of the thick cotton in the crotch keeps me from feeling too much.  

As I work my hand deeper down her thighs, I can feel the warmth.  Her crotch is also starting to lather. I can feel she is starting to get leak through through her panties.  

do you work your hand inside her panties?

No.  I take my hand away from her crotch to see where her head is at.  I slide my dress up so she can see my panties. 

what color are they?

They are pink. 

She looks over but still doesn’t say anything.  I rub my own pussy and am soaking wet.  I slide my panties down off my hips so I can show her the inner crotch of my panties.  They are actually soaking wet.

did I fuck you or cum in your mouth before work that morning?

You fucked me.

so your panties also have my old cum?

Yes, I am leaking your cum from the morning and my own juices from being so turned on by being able to touch her vagina. 

As we pull back up to the office, I slide my soaking panties off and put them in my purse.  As we walk back to the office, we don’t say anything.  We wait in front of the elevator, holding our salads.  As the elevator door closes behind us, she slowly reaches over and touches my ass. 

does she put her hand up your skirt?

No.  She doesn’t lift my skirt, she just rubs my ass to let me know she wants more.

We get into my office and I close my door.  I lay her down on my floor and pull her panties down.  She is so moist.  I start eating her out.



not so fast

I just want to eat her out.

Tell me about her first.  What does her pussy look like?

Her pussy has about a weeks worth of hair, so its trimmed but you can see growth.  Her pussy lips are thick and dark, much darker than her actual skin.  Her crotch smells like warmth, a long day, and sweat.  Not her insides, but just around her crotch.  She is thick and her body has more of an odor than mine, but it really turns me on.  I slide my tongue over her lips.  

does eating pussy turn you on more than getting your pussy ate?

Yes.  I love going down on a woman.


I like to see what a woman smells like, what her vagina looks like, what she smells like.  What she tastes like.  

are you happy experiencing all this with her?

I love it.  Her pussy is so good.  She is so nice to me.  I am so glad I get to please her. 

I tease her rubbing my tongue over her clit and lips.  She is moaning and I can tell she wants me to stick my tongue inside her.  She wants to feel me taste her.  I push my tongue in her as far as I can, she gasps and moans.  I taste all of her insides.

I then move my mouth up to her clit, happy with tasting her enough to satisfy my curious urges.  I suck on her clit as I stick the tip of my finger in her hole.  I can tell she wants me to fuck her.  

how can you tell?

At this point, I am stroking my husband hard.  I make sure my hands get tight as I get closer to knowing I am going to make her cum.  He is asking me questions, but his mumbles are getting quieter and I can I am in his head, creating the imagery her is going cum too.

It’s just something about the way she is moving her body down onto my hand.  She wants me to shove my fingers inside her.  I oblige and go deep enough to feel for her cervix.  I feel her little bump inside her and circle my finger around her cervix.  I lick and suck her clit and can tell she is about to cum.  Her vagina tightens around my finger and she raises her body off the ground.  She bites her lip and holds her breath.  Because we are in the office, she doesn’t make a sound.  But I can see her veins in her neck protruding as she strains from her orgasm.  I can feel her body and lips spasming.   She came so fast.  She must not have had her pussy ate out in months, maybe even years.  She was so ready.

do you want to pull up her panties and let her leave?

No, I want my pussy ate.  

He is so close to cumming he wanted to cum but didn’t know if I wanted to go deeper into my story, so he could cum with me.  I can tell by his erection, he is on edge and can barely hold back.

okay, tell me more…

I tell her I want her to eat my pussy.  She tells me she has never ate a pussy or seen another woman nude.  I lift my dress up and put my pussy over her face.  I can tell she loves seeing another woman’s vagina.  She touches it in a way she just wants to feel the texture.  It’s too bad I am so wet, because as she touches it, I can see my sticky froth drip down onto her face.   I have a line of clear froth and your old cum stuck from my labia, to the side of her cheek.   She starts rubbing my pussy  harder and puts her mouth up to my body….

At this point, my story stops.  My husband is now cumming.  He reaches up to grab my head and puts my mouth over his penis.  I can fee his aggression as he holds me down on his dick until he is done shooting inside me.  Usually when I am done I will lean back and open my mouth so he can see his cum in my mouth. I will then play with his cum while he watches before I swallow.  However, today he quickly asks me if I wanted to cum.  I swallow and nod yes.  My orgasms are not necessary, but after a dirty story, I usually always need to release.  He knows this.  I nod and let him know I would like to cum.  I grab my toy and lay off to the side of him.  His dick isn’t totally erect anymore, but it’s still hard enough to slide inside my body.  This is when his dick is at its thickest and stretches me the most. I grab my wand and put it against my pussy.  My husband whispers, “Do you love pussy more than you love dick?”

I nod.  I do.  I love pussy more than I love dick.  But I love him more than I love pussy.


For other couples, it’s totally okay to dive into things you may never want to really experience, with your minds.  We read this a lot on relationship forums.  Sometimes it creates mixed signals, sometimes it creates insecurities.  So talk to your partner, let them know a fantasy is just a fantasy, and assure them it will never go beyond that.  This will help everyone open up and dig into their heads further than they ever have.  Or at least out loud.

One Girls Journey: Teaching Her Boyfriend To Make Her Cum / Orgasm

make her cumOne Girls Journey: Teaching Her Boyfriend To Make Her Cum / Orgasm

It’s almost like a rite of passage for a young man to make his woman orgasm.  We decided to share this great anonymous story of a girl and her journey teaching her boyfriend how to make her cum.  We figured we would share for those on the same journey.   I will add my own input between various points to help add missing details for those of you that may be looking for this type of information.

At the end of the write up, I will add a few more tips and tricks that may help your woman orgasm.  Unfortunately, this write up could be split up into parts, because some women prefer to orgasm with a dick, with a tongue, with a toy, or with a finger.  This story seems to be more of how to make her cum with his fingers.  So we are a bit all over the place with this one.


Take the pressure off of her and make her cum!

When my boyfriend first started trying to make me cum 7 months ago, he was so sure that it would happen that I felt a lot of pressure and it gave me a lot of anxiety every time we tried. He kept saying things like, “It’s going to happen this time” and “I won’t stop until you cum this time” – and while the determination and optimism is MUCH appreciated, it ultimately created even more pressure for me. At about the ten minute mark each time, I would get really self-conscious that I hadn’t cum and that he was bored. By the 20 minute mark when he insisted he wanted to keep trying. I promise you I was not thinking about sex AT ALL.  I was stuck in my own head screaming “WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU”, “HE’S TRYING SO HARD”, “JUST CUM ALREADY” and any of the pleasures I was feeling was buried. Seriously guys, I almost faked it once (a big deal for him) just because I felt SO bad and he was working so hard for it that I wanted to give it to him just because he deserved it. After I told him about how much pressure I felt to cum, we started trying just for 10-15 minutes and then moving onto sex if it still wasn’t building for me. This helped me just focus on the pleasure I felt and not worry about needing to cum from it! Once we established that norm, I started getting a lot more into it and I came pretty soon after that.

Nessa:  This also helps with orgasms through penetrative sex.  Imagine it not just being a finger playing with you, or a tongue, but instead the man sweating on top of you, watching the clock, trying to move exactly the way you need it. Half way to a heart attack but still going. This pressure, especially because the the energy output can be so high, puts a lot of pressure on women.  This is probably why a lot of women fake orgasms, because we feel bad watching a man try so hard yet aren’t able to give him what he wants.  If you take the pressure off us reaching an orgasm, it’s just easier for us to relax and cum through sex.

Don’t take it personally, and put in the work to make her cum

My boyfriend got really insecure that he couldn’t make me cum after months and months of trying, and I felt like he stopped trying for a while simply because he was embarrassed. DONT DO THAT! It’s not a you problem. Like I talked about above, I was equally as embarrassed as he was and the more I felt like he didn’t want to try, the more ashamed I was. YOU’RE DOING GREAT! It takes a lot of work to get there, but (for me at least) as soon as my boyfriend made me cum once it got a whole lot easier. He’s made me cum by himself almost every time since then!


Dirty talk to make her cum

My boyfriend will dirty talk in my ear almost the entire time, which helps give me a narrative to focus on and makes me feel like he’s into it and not just sitting there bored listening to me pant. lol. He starts off with fantasies of mine first, and by the time I get really close he’ll start whispering all the things he’s going to do to me after I cum for him. Yeah, that helps lol.

Nessa: Dirty talk definitely helps, depending on what he is doing.  If he is down on me giving me oral sex, stopping to talk to me may just throw me off entirely.  However, moaning or acting like my pussy is the best thing you have ever tasted, definitely keeps me on edge.  If he is near my face and I am sucking his dick while I have a toy / vibrator on my crotch, hearing him talk dirty can definitely help me orgasm much faster.  During sex, dirty talk can also help.  However, make sure your breath is fresh!   Imagine trying to cum with coffee breath blowing in your face talking dirty to you.  The little things like this make a huge difference.

Let her guide you (and watch her make herself cum so you get an idea of her technique).

For me personally, my clit is too sensitive to directly touch. I had to guide my boyfriend to a very specific spot right above my clit, and then occasionally adjust his finger once it started slipping from that spot. I also had to tell him to speed up/slow down and use less/more pressure. Don’t be embarrassed by her critiques! I swear it is just as difficult when I do it myself, I just can immediately sense when I’m losing the “spot” and adjust myself accordingly. With my boyfriend, I had to tell him all of these adjustments – and some days there were many of them because that spot is so elusive.

Nessa:  Great point.  Every girl is unique.  Do not try all your master techniques on us that worked on your last girl.  Not only is that a huge turn off, but we aren’t machines that all operate the same way.  My first cum with my guy was through his tongue, not his fingers, but we are all different.  Communicate with your girl, ask her what makes her cum, and if you are secure in yourself, ask her to guide you through an orgasm with her.  Even if you let her masturbate while you put your dick in her mouth and tease her nipples.   Tell her she can guide your tongue and/or hand if she likes.  The first time I came with my husband, he would come up from under the covers and ask, “Am I doing it right?”  We were young, but I knew from playing with myself, how to tell him to move his tongue,  “Go in little circles around my clit but not directly on it.”   


My boyfriend will sometimes kiss me sloppily, choke me, dig his fingers into my back, or kiss all over my neck or my thighs while he’s working his fingers over my clit. That is ~heavenly~. He also started slipping his fingers inside of me as he played with my clit – sometimes pushing them deep into my G-spot, and sometimes gently teasing the outer entrance until I’m basically begging for him to shove his fingers inside of me. Sometimes he’ll even tease my asshole and slip a finger in there, which really gets me going. Obviously, this is up to personal preference – for a while it was really hard for me to focus on two different sensations at once (penetration and clit stimulation), so that didn’t work for me. Now it turns me on like nothing else!!

Nessa:  Multitasking is great!  During oral sex, I personally prefer a tongue near my clit area, a finger inside my vagina, and his other fingers “accidentally” rubbing against my anus.  This has always been a big deal for my body.  I assume the anus stimulation resembles his balls rubbing against my ass during intercourse.  But my ass has always been a big erogenous zone for me.  

make her cumTry having her stimulate you at the same time!

This doesn’t always work for me because it’s hard for me to focus on two things at once when I’m close to cumming, but it’s a MAJOR turn on for me when I can make my boyfriend moan as he’s trying to get me off. I LOVEEE 69-ing because I get to take his cock down my throat as his tongue is doing crazy things to my pussy. If he’s just using his fingers, then I love using lube/spit to give him a handjob as he works his fingers. By the time I’m about to cum, the handjob is definitely sloppy at best – but there’s just something about having his dick in my hand and making him shudder every so often when I brush the head.

Nessa:  This is actually a great suggestion.  Probably the best suggestion in this entire write up.  Stimulating him during play can keep him going for much longer.  Just rubbing his balls, or stroking his shaft, can release his endorphins and satisfy him, while he satisfies you.  And like her first point, knowing he is also being pleased, takes off all the pressure and time constraints.  We have learned that if he kind of sits off to the side, on all fours, so I can reach up and just rub his balls, while he is down on me really works.  It’s not quite 69, but close.  You can also just flat out 69, but that can tend to change the game, depending on how hard and horny he gets.  It goes from eating each other out, to getting my throat fucked.   Either way, finding ways to relax each other, can keep him going for much longer.  And by much longer, it can keep him down on you for hours if you find the right spot.

Try letting her do the work the first couple times.

The very first time I came from my boyfriend, I started grinding down on his finger in time with his motions. Pretty soon he was only minimally moving his finger and I was doing some serious hip action to recreate the way I masturbate by myself. So, for example, I would grind my hips in a circular motion with barely any pressure, and then when I got closer I would start jerking my hips up and down while grinding hard into his finger. This is pretty much my technique by myself, but usually my hips are still and my finger is doing the work. This time I flipped it and used his finger! I will say I was really self conscious about this technique at first because I thought it must look like I was having a seizure with all my hip-jerking lol. But pretty soon I stopped caring about what I looked like, and I came like 5 minutes after that lol. I’ve had to use this technique less and less because my boyfriend is learning my exact style, and the work is slowly transferring from my hips back to his fingers. Last time he made me cum in under 10 minutes with pretty much no effort from myself! WILD

Nessa:  This is much like her other suggestion, let her guide you.  I think she probably put this twice because this was the biggest surprise for her.  Her being the one showing him how to do it, was important.  That man ego, that big cocky attitude, that drive to make her cum without taking into consideration that he had no idea how her body ticks?   Let her help you.

I hope this helps at least one person!! I seriously was so depressed over this issue, but as soon as it happened once he started being able to make me cum almost every single time by himself. The first time I came, we both sat up and basically screamed with joy lol.  We didn’t even have sex after because we were too busy celebrating. Hope you have similar luck with some of these tips, because cumming in the arms of your partner is an AMAZING feeling that I hope all of your girlfriends/fuck buddies/hookups/one-night-stands experience 🙂


Great little write up.  We will add a few more pointers in this article to really fluff it up a bit and make sure we touch on  more points that were missed.  


Learn her body. 

It’s not instinct for you to just touch us and we cum.  We have erogenous zones, hot spots, things that make us go crazy, and things that just outright irritate us.  For instance, I can’t stand just having your fingers slammed into me like you are fucking me with your hand. What’s really crazy is a lot of girls I have been actually do this.  It doesn’t feel good to me.  Not to mention, cut your nails!  Never finger a girl with big long gross nails.   Men or women. 

Learn her. 

Some girls like it rough, some girls like it soft.  Some girls like direct contact with the clitoris, some like you to circle around it.  Some like you to only directly rub the clitoris as we are about to cum, but as we orgasm, ease up and circle again.  Much like your penis head when you cum, we get sensitive.  Don’t keep rubbing our clits as hard as you can while we are in the middle of the orgasm, as it may ruin it for us.   But again, learn her.  Figure out what she likes and doesn’t like.  From oral, to fingers, to actual sex.  If you want to make your girl orgasm, learn her.  Put the ego off to the side shelf next to the lube, and go in with an open mind.

Good luck fellas!

Question for Women: I Just Had The Worst Sex Of My Life, TWICE. How do I deal with this?

worst sex of my lifeQuestion for Women: I Just Had The Worst Sex Of My Life, TWICE. How do I deal with this?

Oh my god. The pain. RIP vagina.

I’m 26 and the guy I’m sleeping with is 22. Initially, I was worried because of the age difference (especially in bed per sexual experience) but we’ve been friends for years and there’s always been a lot of sexual tension between us. So I invited him over to hang out and next thing I know I’m being jackhammered.

worst-sex-of-my-lifeNow I’m not here to insult anyone who enjoys being jackhammered, and I am going to mention some rough sex is really good when it’s right. HOWEVER, this was undeniably the most painful and worst sexual experience I’ve ever had… twice..

First of all, this guy has a big package. Girth and length, so I knew it would take some easing into. Second of all, I could immediately tell how awfully desensitized he was when there was little to no reaction to my hands/mouth. And third, he didn’t even orgasm after an hour of sex and an hour of pounding me. I’m so incredibly shocked and disturbed by the entire ordeal I had no idea where to get it out but here.

rougher sexThe first time we had sex he went wild. He was ripping me around the bed, licking my butthole, putting fingers in every hole possible, choking me, jackhammering me. (Talk about boundaries?!) I was so shocked by it all I was barely able to communicate properly. I was so uncomfortable. I mentioned to him “do you ever have slow sex?” “woah relax” but he was not taking any hints. I actually had to stop him after 45 minutes because my vagina was so raw and he was not even close to climaxing. I chalked it up to him being young and nervous and just trying to impress me by doing anything he can think of but I was so wrong.

I figured I would mention it to him if we ended up in bed again. The second time when we were making out I made a joke that I was scared to sleep with him because he’s A) huge and B) crazy (not in a good way) he needs to slow down.. So he spent extra time touching me, going down on me, was slow to jump into sex, but when we did get into sex he was insane. He had no reaction to me riding him, NONE. Instead, he fucked me even harder than the last time and the only way he could cum was by literally jackhammering me forever. It was fucking horrible and so painful.

worst sexHere’s the thing. We were good friends before all of this and it’s safe to say I never want to sleep with him again, but he is really into me. He texts me to hang out all the time, takes me on nice dates, spends hours talking to me.. but the sex is just terrible.. I know he’s going to ask what’s up when I tell him I’m not interested in sleeping with him and I want to lay it all out for the poor guy before he goes into his prime 20’s thinking that’s how women want to be fucked. He’s clearly got a major death grip/porn addiction and it’s disturbing. So how do I navigate this?!!

Venice’s response to worse sex of my life

Interesting story.  This is extremely simple to navigate… tell him.

Because sexual experiences are subjective and some women find getting their brains fucked out by a 20 year old stud as great sex, I don’t think he will be ruined by your preferences.  Just make sure he knows, it’s not all women, but your preference.   It also may be because who wants to be jackhammered and have your pussy fucked raw by a guy you see as an adorable pal that you chit chat with but never really wanted to fuck in the first place?

Just let him know your deal.  

On another note, I find it unusual you can tell he has a “death grip/porn addiction” based off being jackhammered by a young stud that wants to fuck your brains out.  

Ryan’s response to worse sex of my life

I agree with Venice.  Although the story is fun, this is an extremely easy one.   Tell him.

As far as riding him and being able to tell he has death grip?  Huh?  Being rode is a much different sensation than doggy, missionary, or any type of penetration where the man can control how his penis pistons inside a woman.  In fact, I’d say being rode gives the least sensation simply because it kind of just stirs the penis inside the women, just rubbing around her insides, rather than pistoning in and out.  It’s a good sensation, but a lot of guys will flip you over and really fuck you down before we orgasm.  And it’s not because of death grip or a porn addiction.  It’s because that stirring sensation really gets us horny but not quite enough sensation to get that release.  Frustrated, we really take it out on a woman’s pussy when we get on top of her.

The same can be said for the hand or mouth, as a lot of men just can’t orgasm from oral sex.  A mouth feels amazing, but just can’t compare to a tight vagina.

Otherwise, good luck navigating this friendship.  I’d say you got in over your head with a guy that had been dreaming of fucking your brains out, while you saw him as a casual friend that you probably don’t desire.  And you really don’t want your brains fucked out by a guy you have little desire for.  Probably a bit embarrassing to get your back blown out by a guy you kind wanted on the side as you found a real love interest.


How Twitter And Blogging Led To Us Becoming Webcam Models

webcam modelHow Twitter And Blogging Led To Us Becoming Webcam Models

Let’s be honest, the term webcam models is a nice way of saying, Amateur Smut Peddlers.  The 360×480 Low Quality Shove a Dildo in Your Ass While the Sound of Coins Bling in the Chatroom Couple. The Blurry and Pixelated Porn Stars….

Okay, let me stop.  Just know, we were around in the wild wild web, when you had to download AVI files at 600 MB, for a 1 minute clip of an amateur couple fucking.  High quality wasn’t a thing, neither was streaming in 1060 HD. Marijuana may be the gateway drug, but Twitter and sex blogging for naughty exhibitionist couples is the gateway to becoming amateur porn stars.  

The Low Down on The Webcam Model Lifestyle

And as the good bloggers we are, we will help lead the way for the new up and cumming couples that have recently shared nude photos for the first time and accidentally found this blog.  Even better, we have found a site that has done all the hard work for us and compiled a list of the best cam sites to turn your stranded at home, touching yourself during the quarantine, possibly unemployed, beautiful ass, into an amateur webcam model.  For us, we personally didn’t need any of the reasons above, we just became webcam models because it felt naughty and made our sex better.  That’s it.  We loved the new attention we got while blogging.  We loved the likes and retweets on Twitter. 

I can still remember the first time we posted a video and got a million views in a matter of days from a close up of me with a mask on, deepthroating my husband.  A million people wanted to see me suck my husband’s dick with a mask on?   And like those before us, we knew how Heather Harmon and her husband felt.

The attention is Intoxicating.

Mo’ Money Mo’ Problems.

The most money we made in this business was through performing as webcam models.  The least money we have made?  This blog.   Funny huh?

Although we have put on plenty of free webcam shows with no options to donate, eventually we did jump into the professional world of being webcam models.  For the experience, for the attention, for the feeling of being fuck bots for those that pay us money to request how I take my husband’s cum shot.   It was neat, like Pay -Per-View sex on demand.  For us, although the coin chiming sound became the soundtrack to our orgasms, we eventually decided to keep our content more controlled.   We weren’t Barbie and Ken and live sex is unforgiving on our bodies and egos.

We Dare You To Find Our Live Webcam Clips

Eventually we “retired” and thankfully have never been able to find the clips from our live days floating around.    Not because of the embarrassment we were naked and having sex, but more the embarrassment of how bad we probably looked naked and having sex LIVE.  With that said, we still openly challenge anyone to find live clips of us!  The only clips we have found floating around, are the clips we uploaded and edited (that a lot of other sites have snagged or anonymous users have reuploaded), that we purposely released to get that type of attention.   And truthfully, for those thinking of becoming webcam models, this is a good thing.  There are so many couples from all over the world streaming 24 hours a day on webcam sites, that your footage being saved is almost non existent.  Although we like to think of ourselves as unique snowflakes, our vaginas and dicks just aren’t that special!  Chances of amateur webcam footage going viral these days?  Almost none. 

Your Secrets Are Save With We

The dangers of “being nude online will stick with you forever” are pretty much over.  You will be more haunted from your past mistake of giving that ex-boyfriend a nude, than performing on live webcam.   The fact you are anonymous and there are so many other models banking coin doing the same thing, keeps you pretty safe.   On most sites, you can even block specific states from viewing your live stream if you wanted (so the locals won’t recognize or find you).  Unlike the 90s, when every perv had a screen capture recording, it just doesn’t seem to be a thing anymore.  It doesn’t go viral, DMCA takedowns work quick, and unless you are doing something so different from the rest of the world, it just won’t get noticed or attention in recorded format.  

webcam sexUs Moving on from Amateur Webcams

Although our sex blog and social media like Twitter led us into the webcam model world,  we didn’t stick around long.  The money was good, but for us, we preferred the blogging format.  Over time our bodies changed, jobs changed, and blog changed.   Originally it was all about step by step instructionals on how to deepthroat.   And since we blogged about it, we figured it only made sense to verify with videos.   But later our blog got more in depth with our lives, every day relationship advice, questions and answers, and less about teaching women to deepthroat or sniff cum like it’s a drug.  Although sex will always be a huge part of this blog because it keeps our intimacy active, through things like our erotic photo shoots or our naughty selfies.

However, we do apologize for all those that now visit our amateur webpage with promises of videos going along with our blogs only to be met with the dreaded [DELETED].   I guess the power of never being popular and making mediocre quality videos is… when they disappear, no one notices!  They used to tell us, “Don’t upload your sex videos because it’s online forever!”  Not anymore!  Your porn isn’t online forever if you aren’t deepthroating a dildo the size of your entire arm. Not these days.  

In hindsight, being an amateur webcam couple was a fun experience.  But we were doing that type of thing when it had so much negative stigma to it.  The idea that bad decisions haunt you forever was constantly in the back of our minds. It isn’t until you decide that sex isn’t bad or something you should be ashamed of that the stigma disappears.  Especially as a couple that is married or in a very committed relationship.  As we get older, we now think, “Dang, where is that old video where we looked so damn hot!  Why didn’t anyone save it!”  More and more webcam models and social media kinksters are asking their followers for old photos of themselves!  Not only do these things not haunt us, we regret not saving them ourselves.  I have found videos of us uploaded to random sites (not by us) years ago and redownloaded them to archive!