Top Drop, Aftercare, BDSM, Threesomes, And Vanilla Sex

aftercareYesterday while on twitter I made a comment about no longer wanting to have threesomes with Venice because I feel depressed afterwards. Although I have never tried to figure out the explanation behind this depression, I got a response from a twitter follower named @Verbal75 that used the term Top Drop. Venice and I had never heard of the term so I asked him to explain what it meant, and he did.  Although I am unsure if that is exactly what I am feeling regarding threesomes (that will be another blog), I have dealt with feeling depressed after having everyday vanilla sex with Venice.  Either way, as an introvert I was interested in the terminology and asked if @Verbal75 would like to write a blog about what he was trying to explain to me.   Amazingly, by the next day, I had this story in our inbox.

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Q&A: Am I Crazy? Sexually Frustrated Wife Needing Help

My husbsexually frustratedand and I have been together for almost 9 years, married for almost 5. Our relationship is generally very good but there is a constant issue that we’ve had for the past few years and that is SEX.

I’m 29, husband is 27. I want sex ALL THE TIME, all day everyday. My husband is content with sex once a week or every two weeks even. It’s definitely slowed from a few years ago. I initiate almost every night and almost always get refused by him.

Worst of all there have been a couple of times I’ve caught him watching porn while I am asleep in bed, and he says it’s because sex is too much work.

We have two kids under 5 he likes to blame but I make sure they’re asleep in their own beds by 9pm every single night, so now he likes to blame work instead. He’s now too tired to have sex. Funny thing is I work 30 hours a week, go to university full time, be a wife and mom, and I’m still not too tired for sex.

I don’t know what to do. We rehash this issue all the time, it turns into arguments all the time. We have a happy marriage otherwise, and I don’t want to be with anyone else. But he makes me feel silly, crazy, or abnormal telling me that it’s all me and I have a higher than average sex drive. He says once every 1-2 weeks is normal for a couple who’s been together as long as we have with two young kids, but I have other friends with kids who say they get sex more often than I do. When I tell him this he laughs and says they are lying to make themselves look better than us.

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My 16 Favorite Southern Expressions and Words

I’ve lived in California all my life and had never ventured past the West coast or even anywhere near the Mountain Time Zone. What I knew about the South was what I saw in Forrest Gump and public school history books. Is there still racism? Sure there is. But it seems that the people here aren’t as inhibited as people are in other regions. It took me a while to overcome the language barrier, but even now a little help from Google Translate can help to get fully past the barrier. My observations aren’t meant to mock or offend, but to point out my favorite linguistic distinctions. No, not everyone uses the words and expressions below, to be fair. But many do. Here’s my list:

16. Sair-dee. Say it again. Do you hear it? It’s the phonetic pronunciation of Saturday. Isn’t that adorable? It really tickles me to hear that. No matter what day of the week it is.


15. Chiiiiiiiiiild. Depending on the age of the speaker, you may also hear, “Giiiiiiiiiirl” which is used by your peers, or “Hooooooooooney” which I’ve heard being used between two older women. Therefore, “chiiiiiiiiiild” is usually said by an older woman to a younger person. The drawing out of these terms of endearment usually precedes a piece of advice or a profound fact.

Example: “Why did I get in trouble for eating one piece of chocolate? The new guy ate half the box and the boss didn’t say jack to him!” The supervisor rolls her eyes and says to me, “Chiiiiiiiiiild, he’s the boss’ nephew. You’ll learn soon enough.”

14. Might could. Might could replaces “might (or may) be able to.” Example: “I can’t go to the wedding ceremony, but I might could go to the reception.”

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Random Moments: Top 10 Best Horror Movies Ever

My top 10 horror movies!  Grab your popcorn and your tablet, it’s about to be on!

After each selection, Ryan gives his two cents on whether he agrees or not.  If he doesn’t agree, you can pretty much you can ignore that part!  🙂

10) Jeepers Creepers
After I saw this movie, I started believing in the horror genre again. There was something very frustrating going on throughout the movie: dying cell phones, uncooperative small town diner folk, creepy cat lady. All these trite goings-on leading up to what should probably be a showdown between good and evil. Wrong. When Darry falls down storm pipe leading to an unknown hole, we are relieved to know that he’d landed unharmed. But as he the camera pans up and around the catacomb, we see the terrifying place as he gently dusts himself off. And it’s only more disturbing when he encounters a young man, bound, but still alive and staring at him with fear in his eyes. This was the last movie I watched before I went to Field Training the next day.

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Ryan’s two cents: Scary, frustrating, entertaining, nail biting, and more.  And I fucking hate scary movies.

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Random Moments: Top 10 Best TV Shows Ever

I’ve decided to share my top 10 favorite television shows with the world.  I mean, I’ve shared everything else so why not!

After each selection, Ryan gives his two cents on whether he agrees or not.  Yes, we do disagree on our television shows!

10) Cheers 
How could a show that took place in a bar 99% of the time make me feel like home? It took a while for Cheers to find themselves, but it just got funnier and funnier with each subsequent year, i.e. when Woody and Rebecca joined the cast. When I was a kid they used to show the reruns three times before my bedtime and I watched them all.

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Ryan’s two cents: This was definitely a good show.  Truthfully, I am a bit biased because growing up I only had 3 channels and NBC was the only channel out of the 3 that came in clear.  With that being said, this was an NBC show and I probably watched each episode (after Coach died) live week by week.  I honestly had no idea who the Coach character was until I later saw reruns.

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